Why do people think they have the right to judge others? I see lots of criticism of high profile people. They're scrutinized on what they wear, how they look, the size of their bodies and other nonsense. Why are people in the public eye targeted with such animosity? Is it jealousy, contempt or something else?
I see it among people who are not famous too. What is it about some humans who need to tear down someone doing something they themselves are afraid to do? I believe that's jealousy rearing its ugly head. So when we are the subject of such unwanted and unwarranted scrutiny, why are we so negatively impacted by it?
Who doesn't love Brené Brown?
I love this quote:
A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-spirited criticisms and put-downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we're defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you're not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I'm not interested in your feedback". - Brené Brown
No opinions from the cheap seats please
If you're out there trying to change the status quo and make a difference in the world, no one gets to heckle from the cheap seats. This rule is the same for both well-meaning loved ones and those who may not have your best interest at heart. Even if the changes are for you alone, unless someone is walking that journey with you, they don't get a vote.
If it isn't your life, please...just...no
I have found several times in my life that someone would tell me not to lose too much weight (that has never been my problem) or not to go all in on something I wanted to try. I was told not to go into Accounting when I was first going to college by someone who supposedly had my best interest at heart. So I went to college for one semester studied Psychology and English and dropped out for several years until I decided to return to years later to study...Accounting.
Don't do what I did
At the time, it was what I wanted to do and of course I didn't listen to my own inner voice. Instead, I listened to someone I thought I admired. I wasted many years and fell about seven years behind my peers in the career path I followed. Fortunately I was able to catch up and had a very good career that took care of my family and me quite nicely. Everything worked out in the end but the bottom line is I allowed someone else's choice for me override what I knew to be my best option at the time.
Shine like the star you are
Don't let the opinion of others dull your sparkle. If you have something to contribute to the world, put on blinders and put in earplugs. Don't let the occupants of the cheap seats tell you how to proceed through your life. They aren't the ones who have to live with the results of your decisions.
Since June 2019, I decided to hold myself accountable for walking my talk. Several years ago, I was able to take off 135 pounds and essentially save my own life. I regained some of that weight in the last couple of years and I’m working my way back down. I’ve lost over 40 pounds since I began in June and have exercised nearly every day since August.
If you choose to join me on this journey, I hope I am able to impart some nutritional and lifestyle wisdom. Even though I may have gone off the rails temporarily I can still share some of my first hand experience as well as my acquired knowledge and training to help you make the right changes to live your best life.
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