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Happiness Is An Inside Job

Have you ever seen a quote and it just spoke to you? It happens to me from time to time. I saw one today that really called out to me. I feel like these two quotes describe the past twelve years of my life. Both are from Sarah Krycinski.

“One morning she woke up different. Done with trying to figure out who was with her, against her, or walking down the middle because they didn’t have the guts to pick a side. She was done with anything that didn’t bring her peace. She realized that opinions were a dime a dozen, validation was for parking, and loyalty wasn’t a word, but a lifestyle. It was this day that her life changed. And not because of a man or a job but because she realized that life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. It was the day life began!”


Life really is too short to let someone else’s opinion decide what’s best for you. Do what makes your heart sing…even if it isn’t the popular thing to do.

For me, it meant turning my life around. After a devastating diagnosis, I regained my health, lost 135 pounds and took control of my life in ways I never had before. There were people who tried to sabotage my efforts and ultimately removed themselves from my life.

One particular person was deeply offended when I refused to eat a meal that she was well aware didn’t meet with my dietary needs. On another occasion, her husband paid me a nice innocent compliment when we were all out together. There was nothing to it, just an acknowledgement of my weight loss. It was very clear however, that she was not happy with the exchange and that was the beginning of the end of our friendship. I haven’t seen either of them in years.

The bottom line for me is, my life is mine to live. I can’t do it for anyone else, nor should I. And I would give that advice to anyone.

Your happiness is your responsibility alone. No one or nothing can make you happy because happiness is an inside job.

Do what you need to do to find fulfillment and happiness within yourself. You owe it to you and those around you to live your best life.

How are you living your best life? Let me know in the comments.




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  1. Elisa on January 13, 2022 at 8:31 pm

    It shouldn’t be so hard to live our best lives. I turned 50 last year and something inside me has definitely changed. I have to be my authentic self, and if people don’t like it – it’s their loss. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here.

    • Karen on January 13, 2022 at 9:00 pm

      That is so true Elisa. Congratulations on your milestone birthday. As I get older I find I don’t have time for people who don’t like the real me. And you’re right…it truly is their loss if they can’t accept us.

  2. Victoria Juster on January 13, 2022 at 8:47 pm

    You’re so right, Karen. Happiness is a choice and if someone can’t support your happiness they really aren’t a true friend.

    • Karen on January 13, 2022 at 8:58 pm

      I agree with you Victoria. We are also responsible for our own happiness so whether someone supports it or not, we should strive to be happy the best way we can.

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