How Do You Manage Change?
“The more things change, the more they remain the same” – Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr
How many times have you heard that quote? The only constant in life is change, I think we can agree. Sometimes we can just roll with it, but other times it rolls us.
You can’t avoid it
Change is inevitable. When you try to avoid it, it’s likely to be even more stressful than it would have been if you had just embraced it in the first place. By trying to avoid change, you set yourself for stress and anxiety. Feelings of being overwhelmed may overtake you.
You can’t always be prepared
Even if we think we’ve prepared for impact, a big change in our lives can knock us to our knees. A sudden loss for instance, can knock us down in ways we never expect.
A medical diagnosis that changes the way we will live our lives going forward can be overwhelming, terrifying and isolating.
Even a good change, like a new relationship, a new job or a sudden financial windfall can be very stressful.
Honor your feelings
Whatever you feel in the moment, give yourself grace and the space and time to feel those feelings. Don’t try to deny or minimize them. Burying your feelings can lead to those feelings surfacing at a most inopportune time and in a way that doesn’t serve anyone.
You should allow the feelings to come forward and be felt but you don’t have to live in them. Feel the feelings and then take steps to move forward.
Too often, people try to avoid or ignore the change and in so doing, can cause more harm than good. It’s important to acknowledge the change but then take steps to deal with it. Typically, people react and respond to change in the following steps:
- anger or other strong emotion
Once you get through the steps, you can move forward and possibly imagine something even better for your life. Of course, much like the stages of grief, the progression through these steps is not usually linear and movement through them will take as long as it takes.
It’s a good idea to seek help if you feel yourself stuck in the emotions and unable to move through them. Even if you talk to a friend who can help you gain the perspective that might otherwise elude you, it may help you move forward.
Once you reach the acceptance stage, it’s important to find ways to embrace your new situation. Moving forward into the new “normal” is necessary.
- consider the change an opportunity rather than a problem
- feel the fear but still move forward
- accept the fact that change is inevitable
- give yourself grace if you stumble
The only constant in life is change. Sometimes it’s good and other times, not so much. The important thing is how you manage change as it happens in your life. Control what you can, but let go of what you can’t and leave it up to the universe to handle. Listen to your intuition. your gut won’t steer you wrong if you pay attention to it. Just know that even when change is good, it can be unsettling. Know that and move forward through all the change that comes into your life.
Since June 2019, I decided to hold myself accountable for walking my talk. Several years ago, I was able to take off 135 pounds and essentially save my own life. I regained some of that weight in the last couple of years and I’m working my way back down. I’ve lost over 40 pounds since I began in June and have exercised nearly every day since August.
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I manage change by putting it into a change purse.
Don’t keep the nasty ones and share the shiny ones.
Isn’t knowing how to handle change part of your emotional intelligence?
LOL…yes Doug it is. It appears you’ve mastered that skill. See you next challenge.
Thank you, Karen, for this and your other posts. Acceptance and coping are what I’m embracing. See you in April.
Looking forward to it Lily.
Another interesting post Karen! I like Doug’s comment, but I save all change even if it’s nasty! LOL
Thanks Martha…I’ll see you at the next challenge.