I came across this video with Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin (the picture, obviously, is not of them because of copyright issues), who have been friends for decades. Besides the comic element they both bring to the discussion, they make some very good points about the importance of women having a strong network of female friends. I can attest to that. My women friends are very important to me. We raise each other up, we don’t compete or compare, we support, we give and take advice, we share experiences, fears, triumphs, tears, laughter and all on a different level than we would with our significant others. That doesn’t mean we have lousy relationships with our partners. Actually, our girlfriend relationships are complementary to the ones we have at home.
Here are some interesting tidbits on the importance of maintaining your female friendships:
The sad fact though, is that friendships are waning. We have gotten so wrapped up in our own stuff that we are not making time for important relationships. Without these relationships, we lose out on the opportunities to support and be supported, to empathize, to be part of a community or just get a hg when we need it.
Say what you will about social media, but I have reconnected with more than a few girlfriends from the old days. I appreciate those friendships so much more now than I did when I was young. We have all lived very different lives but there are a lot of similarities we share. We connect on a much deeper level than we did as kids. Most of us have had significant life changing events that make us appreciate the people in our lives so much more.
The bottom line is, having the support of your female friends does not diminish your family relationships and may actually serve to enhance them. Your girlfriends provide an outlet to vent your frustrations, share your joys, fears, sorrows and can help you gain perspective in a situation where you may have lost yours. So nurture those friendships…you might live longer. At least you’ll be happier in the time you’re here.
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